FREE TRAINING: How to stop caring what the aunties think

Have you ever been on a date with yourself?

Dr. Payal Patel Ghayal is Certified Life and Parent Coach for women physicians and an Integrative Pediatrician. She helps women to start advocating for themselves, and experience greater fulfillment and happiness.


I was invited to speak at a live event in a couple weeks and I need an address- of course.

So I tried to find someone to come with me but it was a bust. And instead of not going or re-scheduling I just decided to go.

Of course I was feeling uncomfortable and uneasy making a decision solo, but it turned out better than ever.

 I got all dolled up and decided to head out. Even before I started shopping, I just believe that I was gonna have a ton of fun!

To my surprise I had at least 15 people stop me to tell me how amazing I looked that day. I’ve worn this dress before and it has not had the same effect in the past. So what was the difference?

It was my attitude.

It was my confidence.

It was my belief in me.

I ended up finding the outfit and more. 😉

I even enjoyed dinner alone.

So when’s the last time you’ve done some thing out of your comfort zone?

When’s the last time you felt so confident that you were glowing?

And why not?

We’re almost programmed to think that justifying and asking for permission is normal.

But it’s actually the total freaking opposite.

Whenever I found myself questioning if I “needed the dress” or “is this too much money”, I just reminded myself that I’m worthy.

I don’t remember ever going on a shopping spree for me after having kids.

Heck I didn’t even do that after I got married.

I felt uncomfortable because I’m so used to giving to everyone else first. It almost felt SELFISH.

But it’s important to take care of yourself so that you can take care of the ones you love.

Of course the thoughts kept coming up while I was doing my thing. But I didn’t let those thoughts overtake my experience. And the way you do that is by reminding yourself that your worth is 100% no matter what. The work that I’ve done over the last couple years on my relationship with myself has been the most PRICELESS thing I’ve invested in.

What I provide for others is not at all related to my value. Can you imagine that? You are awesome no matter what you do or don’t do.

I thank myself for doing the work to get to this point. You can do exactly the same. Ask me how.

When you do invest in your relationship with you, it will shine through and through.

You won’t allow the feelings of guilt and overwhelm to take over your life.

Taking care of yourself won’t be selfish.

You won’t ever need to justify doing anything for you again. Imagine that…..



ps- Ask me how you can choose you without guilt or the need to justify it. 💗

Life Coach for WOC in Medicine


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